Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Writing, Reading and Sabotage

During the last year I've been stalled.  I continue to read as much as I always have but I haven't been reviewing books. My own fiction sits in a documents folder, waiting for me to take up where I left off. I lost two nonfiction writing gigs which discouraged me on the freelancing end of things. 

Here is the thing: not one person, reader or editor, has said anything negative about my writing. The freelance jobs I lost were because of problems on their end. They hoped to start up again once things changed. It had nothing to do with my articles. 

Certainly it's been a stressful two years with my middle son moving out, becoming a grandmother, my daughter starting high school, my oldest talking of moving across the country for grad school, illness and even death in the family. While all of these things caused change in my life, they shouldn't have kept me from writing. So, why am I stalled?

I've discovered a few things about myself in the last few months. I'm an introvert with social anxiety. Many writers have this same personality, so it's not a reason to stop writing. If anything, it should make me feel more a part of the writing community. Again, why am I stalled?

I am my own worst enemy.

-I edit myself constantly as I'm writing.

-I doubt my ability. 

-I am afraid of failing.

Whether it's my personality, my past experiences or something else, I need to stop sabotaging myself.  I'm starting today by writing this blog post. 

I'm turning 55 next month, and it's time to stop getting in my own way. Yes, I know it's easier said then done. I've overcome a lot in my life including emotional abuse that went on for many years until I was in my late 20's.  

At times I think I'm so grateful for my current life with my husband and our children, that I feel guilty for seeking success. I was given a second chance and found love, a healthy relationship, a loving family and a place where I feel emotionally and physically safe. What more can I ask for?



Melissa (My words and pages) said...

I've been struggling with my own writing as well. I have stories I try to go back through to re-write and each time I get discouraged. I think parts are wonderful but then I figure I didn't think *that* through and now there is something else that weighs on my mind. But I know that's the process in finishing it, but I've been trying to re-read the same story for far to long now. I don't seem to get anywhere and haven't created any new words in far to long. I'm starting to think I'm not creative and it's just not for me. But, something clicked in my mind this month. I'm determined to prove that thinking wrong.

We writers (yes, writers as that's what we are doing whether we are published or not) need to stick together and support each other to keep our heads up in the sky. ;)

You can do it! And we will all get there.

Brenda Hyde said...

I read some good blogs in the last couple days. I'll try to share them in a post this week. It helped a lot.